If you catch your man cheating, you may experience a rush of different emotions that can cause you to do the wrong things. However, it’s crucial that you play it smart and try not to react in ways that will only make things worse for you.
1. Don’t contact or meet the girl
You may find yourself thinking that the problem will get solved if you approach the girl. Or you may just be doing it out of curiosity. But this move is not helpful at all. First off, the girl is not the problem here. If it’s not this girl, it will be another. The girl did not betray you or make you any promises. Your man cheating has absolutely nothing to do with the person he’s cheating with. So fighting her will not keep him from cheating again and it really won’t make you feel better either. And most importantly, it won’t save your relationship.
2. Don’t apologize to him
If you catch your man cheating, yes you should confront him. And there’s a very good chance that he’ll try to place some part of the blame on you. He may claim you don’t give him as much attention in bed or out. You may be tempted, in your desperation to fix your pain, to apologize to him and take responsibility. This is the worst thing you can do. A man who’s unhappy with his relationship should talk about it with his partner. Bringing another girl into it is not the action of someone who wants to have a better relationship. It’s the actions of a man who has either given up on you or is so selfish that he just can’t be bothered about how you feel.
3. Don’t blame yourself
In relation to the point above, many women blame themselves when a man cheats. They feel insecure, unattractive and even like a failure. But again, his cheating is not about you and you definitely should not take the blame. If you catch your man cheating on you, don’t doubt yourself. Remember, nobody is perfect and betrayal should not be his way to deal with your imperfection.
Whether you choose to stay or go after being cheated on is ultimately up to you. But the most important thing is to maintain your dignity and focus on your own happiness.