In a relationship, there comes a time when your current relationship partner asks about your various numerous exes. They would like to know about your past relationship experiences and the root of their demise. They are also interested in ascertaining that there are no residual feelings that will come in the way of your relationship.
This is definitely normal, even though we are encouraged to face the future, it would be unwise not to reflect on past mistakes and triumphs. Finding out how to talk about past relationships the right way is what many people find elusive. The conversation starts on a light note but if you aren’t careful, one out-of-place word can turn the conversation nasty in seconds.
So the next time you come face to face with a question about your past relationships and the number of notches on your bed, you will be wise to keep these pointers in mind:
1. Little is more
When you go out with someone who really doesn’t have a sexual past as exciting or brag-worthy as yours, you really have to think twice about telling all your secrets.
2. “Don’t ask Don’t tell” policy
Everyone has a past that’s a given, so you really don’t have to feel bad about your extensive list of past lovers once you’ve settled down with someone else. However, you do have to be careful about what you say to your new lover. Good students only answer the questions asked.
3. Tread lightly
You’re with this special person today because of the coincidences and relationships you’ve experienced before. So if you don’t wanna lose them for some silly childish behaviours of your past, then it would be wise not to mention things that won’t augur well with your partner. The past is in the past for a reason.
4. Just mention, never expound
You will be wise to remember that you can still tell the truth to your new lover without going into explicit details. Avoid getting carried away in the moment and getting caught in the feelings that tend to well up inside when reminiscing about the past.
5. This conversation could be a game changer
Do not forget this key aspect. Everyone wants to know how frisky their mate has been in the past, and they want to know as much of their partner’s past as they possibly can. However, what you reveal could possibly damage or change your relationship.
6. Avoid enumerating your sexual partners
After all is said and done, we always seem to get back to the figures. Cause apparently, “the figures never lie”. As much as possible try to avoid the temptation to give the exact number of your past sexual partners. If they really want to know, then give them a figure they would be comfortable with.
7. Fight the urge to blow your own horn
Never ever make your partner feel second-best, or third or generally lacking in comparison. Your present lover is special, and this is the person you want to be in love with, for the rest of time. Make sure they know that they are what matters to you now, and the best you’ve ever had.
8. Flat out lie through your teeth.
This comes as a no-brainer. We’re treading on very dangerous grounds here. So when this topic comes to fore (and it definitely will), be ready with that killer smile of yours cause it won’t be business as usual. A little white lie never really hurt anybody! At least I hope so.
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